Meditation – being comfortable with reality

Meditation – being comfortable with reality 

Meditation – pathway to the impressive state of the underlying self, the pool of consciousness that is the source of all we experience.  Our most profound experience of self is sublime, peaceful, loving and creative. How to get there?  Well, not by doing what the mind has been doing for years. And if you only aim at stress relief, you are setting your bar much too low. Try stillness, and a bit of work to understand your mind’s processes.

Your Mind and Reality

Your mind is very peculiar.  It gives you your view of who you are and what the world is like.  It keeps that view in place by thinking – an endless stream of it.

Thinking helps  you make sense of the world, too.  The world and all the people in it and all the things in it bombard you with stimuli that would be impossible to navigate, unless you break them down into chunks that have meaning for you. So instead of “all the people,  there are those people, and white people, and Christian and Muslim people, and neighbours and foreigners. There are good people and bad people.

And then, there are the things that  happen, too. Good things that you like, and bad things that no one should do.  There are people who do nice things for you and people who don’t.

By chunking the whole of what there is into these sorts of categories, you try to make your sense of the world fit the reality of what that whole is.  But it is just too sad that, all too often, your idea of how things are, or  of how they should be, just doesn’t fit very well with reality  at all.

Neighbourhoods change, people don’t do the right thing, politicians let the people down…. In particular certain people in your life irritate you, or disappoint you, or lie, or just don’t do the right thing

So you try to make it fit.

You (one does) become argumentative, or spiteful, or aggressive, or stressed or depressed.. because reality isn’t how you want it to be. And you can’t make it be.

Control

Perhaps if you had a little bit more power and control, you could make it all work a better?  Too bad the level of control that any of us has is laughable!

Consider the size of the universe, and your size; or the age of the universe, and your minuscule lifetime; or the generations of humans who have gone before, with the same old woes and worries that you have today, as we all repeat the human story over and over.

Oh yes, you would like much more control than  you have! The sad fact is that you can have the merest smidgeon of it, and your world just persists in being how you think it shouldn’t be.  Your mind makes a lot of stress and trouble when the world  doesn’t fit with its neat picture.

Most commonly, it is the people in your world that don’t fit the picture.  Maybe they’re the problem?  Or maybe not… maybe it’s something else…

The problem is that your view of how things are isn’t real

Here is the odd thing:  the mind creates only a sort of virtual reality.  It builds its world view, and its view of how other people are,  and its idea of who you are, and then acts as though what it has built is how it is.  Yet that can’t be so… a bunch of thoughts cannot be what reality is.

So you’d wonder why the mind gets so upset.  After all, it is only reacting to an idea of how things are, or ought to be.

You’re always right

And then, to make matters worse, the mind always thinks it is right.  Yep – you are always right.  Don’t believe me?  You’re right, then? Even the broadminded, who may re-evaluate in the light of further information, find themselves thinking, “I was wrong, but now…. I’m right!”

When we really see that EVERYONE thinks he or she is right, don’t we all have to take our own mind a little less seriously? Yet we whinge and whine about people and situations, even though the whinging is only a reaction to how you interpret reality – ie, you react to what  you think. And you suppose that how  you see it – what you think and how you react –  is right.

The mind can learn a different way. It can learn to meditate.

 So, how should I meditate?

An easy way to start is simply to notice your breath – it has been with you from the day you were born, after all, and the last thing you will ever do is breathe out! It has a peaceful rhythm to it.  Because it is so familiar, it is harder to keep focused on it, so you could add a little temporary structure to your practice.  Count each breath starting with one, up to five, and then start again at one. Keep the rotation of counting each five breaths until it feels just too heavy…. when that feeling comes, just let it slip away and sit in stillness.  But the moment a new thought arises, or daydreaming, or any mental activity, replace it with breath counting until you slip into the peaceful state again.  Over and over, that’s the way – nothing to be discouraged about. Remember, though, that it is about peaceful stillness, not the counting and not even the breathing.  Just stillness.

Will it relieve my stress?

Of course meditation helps relieve stress. But you can get that from many sources.  Even a movie or a massage will do it for a short while!  Through meditation, you get a break from the cycle of stress, entirely without any external help, and so you find that you can handle things differently.  Besides, the stress is no longer 24/7, and so it   is easier to deal with in smaller chunks.

That is the least of the good things that meditation brings, though. Meditation properly taught is life-changing.

Isn’t meditation a health aid?

There is a common notion these days that meditation is an adjunct to the health professions. Sure, meditation can be helpful in that way. Often the methods are limited, like visualising pleasant fantasies or listening to apps or CDs.  Sometimes, that is a good way to start… even though it is limited.  Usually people only start that way because they don’t know about anything else, and it is easy, easy because superficial.

All  minds benefit from any meditation –  though probably not much from the more limited methods.  Meditation, taught from a traditional understanding, is about uncovering the processes by which the mind delivers a virtual experience of reality instead of a direct experience – high functioning minds get even better for seeing that.

Stillness is an essential tool

In stillness, a curious thing happens… it becomes apparent that awareness is not identical to thinking,  It sees thinking.   When there is a shift of identity to awareness rather than to thinking and the outcomes of thinking, reality is seen for what it is, rather than through the lens of mind and personality and a problem-focused ego outlook.

Ask  yourself what you really want from meditation

The best question is not, “How can I scrape through life a bit better?”, but “How can I be 100% comfortable with reality?”

Reality certainly wins every argument you have with it, so why not learn to get along with it? And the first step is to stop the old habitual mental processes that produce all the problems in the first place, so you get a chance to see how your mind shortchanges your experience of life.

Authentic meditation helps you see.

 

 

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About Mataji

I am the spiritual director of the Australian College of Classical Yoga. We teach reality based spirituality.
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